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  • Writer's pictureCarole Gilmore

What's considered cheating? Part I

We all have our definition of cheating based on our gender and our individual life experiences. In the work I do as a licensed professional counselor who works with couples, I have come to realize that a man’s version of cheating is often very different from what a woman would define as cheating.

These days social media is a popular way of communicating. In addition to being a popular way of communicating, social media is also popular for being at the crux of one particular relationship issue; cheating. Research done by family law specialists Slater and Gordon showed “Social media is considered dangerous to their marriage by 15 percent of respondents, with Facebook seen as being most hazardous, followed by WhatsApp, Twitter, and Instagram.”

Here is a scenario that often presents itself in my office:

Client: “My ex contacted me on Facebook, they said they happened upon my profile and just wanted to reach out and say hello, it’s completely innocent.”

Client’s Partner: “Is it completely innocent?”

Things have the potential to get very tricky all depending on how you choose to respond. Here is the follow-up question…

Would you choose Choice A or B? I invite you to be a part of this important conversation, so select from the 2 choices listed or even share your own response to the presented scenario, in the comments section below. Check back next week for part II of this post; I will be giving you some tips on how to identify and confront cheating in your relationship.

Choice A

“It is great to hear from you maybe we can get together sometime.”


Choice B

“It is great to hear from you; I would love to introduce you to my significant other, sometime.”

If you find yourself struggling with these important relationship problems counseling can help.

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